After high school, it only took a short time to realize that, dyslexia or not, I needed to get a college education. That took longer than expected, not just because of dyslexia, but also because of the trouble I felt I had fitting in with others, constantly feeling alone and disconnected. Once I graduated from college, I thought life would be easier and I would fit in more with society.

I tried to start doing the “right” things. It took more than seven years to land on a “career,” and I struggled with any type of long-term relationship, let alone marriage. I found myself focusing more and more on career goals, making more money, and pushing my feelings farther and farther away.

Just when I thought I would never have a family, I met someone I fell in love with: a wonderful woman who had two young girls. There I was, with an instant family, and I was very proud. Although I enjoyed being a father and stepfather, I could sense that I still did not fit in, that I was becoming a fraud and faking it in my mind. Once my third daughter was born, I felt like I was really living the dream, but inside, I knew that emotionally I was not doing well.

I was always a self-help junkie, and I read all the books, tried multiple programs, and felt better at times, but that old familiar empty, stuck, alone feeling always came back. Unfortunately, over time, all the stress of my career and being a father and husband got the best of me, and my wife and I divorced.

I am so grateful that you landed on my website and are taking the first step in your healing journey.

I feel like I grew up in a normal household in the ‘60s with two older brothers, a mom and a dad, not a lot of “I love yous” or emotional support, and certainly no crying. There were no horror stories or bullying…but there wasn’t any emotional support or nurturing either. My parents did their best they could, and I love them for that.

When it was discovered at a young age that I had dyslexia, it was a blessing and a curse. Now we knew what was causing all my struggles in school, but there was not much support either. As a result, I was never very good at school and did not pay a lot of attention, but I was not called out for it because of the dyslexia. With two older brothers taking up most of the space in our family, I tried to fit in as best I could by playing sports. But in the end, I always felt left out.

After picking up the pieces, I again worked hard on my career goals, on being a single dad, and on trying to connect socially. I started to feel more confident, my career was advancing well, my relationships with my daughters were strong, and my ex-wife and I were coparenting with ease. You might say I had checked all the boxes in life…but those same feelings of loneliness and feeling stuck and unlovable were still there.

Fortunately for me, I came across The Adult Chair® podcast, and it spoke to me, my heart, and my soul in ways I never have felt before. I jumped in and did the work! With the help of the The Adult Chair, I was able to find self-compassion, self-love, and my authentic self. I was able to get to the root of my limiting feelings and beliefs to understand that the events from my past, which had shaped a lot of my self-talk, were not accurate. Instead of trying to feel better by doing all the “right” things and checking all the boxes, I got in touch with myself and was able to transform from the inside out. And that led to changes in my outside world as well. 

Now, I have stronger relationships with my daughters, my brothers, my wife, and myself. I am now living the life I want, and I am hoping you will allow me to work one-on-one with you, The Adult Chair model, and some practical tools to help you live the life you always wanted too!